If we each want to lead from wherever we are, regardless of our position or title, it is essential to have the courage to share our point of view. What I notice in many of my workshops and coaching sessions is that people are sometimes fearful of presenting an opposing view from the their team members. When we talk it through some of the comments are:

“I’m not sure what I have to offer is the right approach. What if I am wrong?”

“No one will listen to what I have to say anyway.”

“Once the team lead makes a decision they never will change their mind.”

“We need to produce the deliverables so what’s the point of introducing a slight flaw in the process?”

The excuses are vast and can even seem to make sense to a leader who is uncomfortable expressing an unpopular or an alternative point of view. Yet the bigger issue at stake is asking ourselves: If I don’t present my opinions to the team, what could happen?

Four Ways To Lead Through The Fear To Share A Different Perspective:

1. Do Not Fall Into Group Think

When we are part of a team or even collaborating with a small group on a project, we can sometimes fall into the trap of going along with the overall consensus. With some team decisions that consensus may be the way to go. On the other hand, I recently worked with a young leader who had a very different outlook on the way a process should be handled. She was unsure how to tell her boss about her ideas because she felt it was risky speaking up. Then we talked about the real risk– if she didn’t say something the inefficient process in place could result in a client leaving.

2. Conduct Proper Research

To be a credible and dependable leader, we each need to do our homework before sharing our suggestions. Presenting our perspective on a “hunch” is not the best way to be heard. For those leaders who tend to listen to their “gut” when offering an opposing argument, think again.

• Become highly familiar and comfortable with all the facts.
• Talk ahead of time individually to other members of the team or group to get a feel how they may respond. With one team I am working with, the meetings before the larger meeting pave the way for successful divergent perspectives.
• Listen to really understand why team or group members see things differently. Then maybe go back and revisit the research and processes.

3. Write Out and Practice What You Will Share

Not all of us have the gift of gab, as one of my recent clients shared. That means that leaders need to prepare thoroughly for what they want to share. If we want to offer an alternative view with clarity and purpose, it is always best to first write out what you want to say. Then, to sound polished and speak like an expert, practice what you want to express. Say it out loud, several times in order to have total command of your words and body language.

4. Present with Confidence

To really have team members listen to our different perspective leaders must show confidence and courage. No one will listen to us if we are wimpy and don’t exude presence.

• Use a loud enough voice to be heard without sounding arrogant or demanding.
• Use a tone that modulates so you can stress certain points.
• Smile and look at the team members with good eye contact.
• Don’t rush, but rather take your time. Not everyone receives information at the same rate.
• Always leave time for questions. Remember to answer them calmly without becoming defensive.

What other strategies have helped you lead through the fear of sharing a different perspective?

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